hashtag

I have been thinking a lot about social media and our children.  My girls are 9 1/2 and have been asking for cell phones for about a year now.  My husband and I have repeatedly put our foot down and told them no.  I ask them what on earth do they need a phone for?  If they aren't with me they are at school and if they aren't at school they are with another parent.  There is no reason why 9 year olds need a cell phone.  Their response, well all our friends have one.  Forever the reason that kids want something, their friends have it.  Only this time they have something that I find so unnecessary for this age.  The other day a friend of mine at the kids school told me about a 4th grader who was showing other 4th graders porn on her phone.  I was outraged.  Obviously this little girl had no idea what she was showing the other kids, but it didn't stop her from showing it.  And now the kids who saw that porn were exposed to something they shouldn't be privy to for quite some time.  Innocence lost all because our society deems it socially acceptable for elementary school aged kids to have cell phones.

 When I was 17 I received a car phone from my parents.  All the enormous phone could do was call my parents in case I was stranded somewhere.  Now flash forward 15 years and phones can basically do anything for you.  Don't get me wrong I love my phone.  The navigation has saved me from getting totally lost.  So many pictures taken to save a memory I know I will forget. But why do our children need to be a part of it?  I have a facebook and an instagram account.  I adore my instagram account. Facebook is whatever.  But lately I have been having the girls friends request to follow me on instagram.  While I really only post pictures of my family on instagram I feel uncomfortable allowing them to follow me.  When I was younger the mystery of my friends parents was a good thing.  I was taught to respect their privacy.  Now with the ability to follow me on instagram will they loose respect for me because they see the inner workings of our day?  I don't know.  But I do know that it makes me feel uncomfortable.  I fear that my childrens generation is loosing the ability to learn social skills.  I took the kids the other day to get ice cream.  Their was a table of 4 highschool aged girls sitting around all playing with their phones.  No one was talking to eachother.  It was annoying. 

One of the girls friends came over the other day to play.  They were outside when Lily came in to complain that their friend wasn't playing and was just on her phone.  I looked outside and sure enough she was sitting on the swing playing some game.  I went outside and asked her if we could put the phone away so she could enjoy playing with her friends.  She happily obliged and ended up having a great time.  But that is my point.  If we don't step in to teach our children to put the phone down they just won't and that scares me.  My girls think I am so mean that I won't let them have phones and that I won't let them play on mine.  I tell them I would rather be mean if it means that they will learn social skills and imagination.  That if it protects them at least for another couple years from the mean cruel internet.  I'm happy my kids don't know much about facebook or instagram or hashtags.  I wish I didn't know about hashtags!  Our children are only young for so long.  The times of bike rides and skinned knees will be long gone before we know it.  I want their memories of their childhood to be of playing tag and hide and go seek and Disney channel and foursquare. Not of selfies and instagram likes.  The time for that will come. I just don't think it needs to be now.

Unbeliveable

Luck is not something that has been on my side in the last 3 years.  It has really felt like everything has been stacked against us.  And then Tuesday happened and everything changed. 

My sister and I got tickets to go to the Ellen show for Tuesday.  We were so excited.  I love Ellen.  I don't watch T.V. during the day, but I will always make sure to watch Ellen.  We knew that the date we received was close to when she was filming her 12 days of giveaways.  So we got pumped up thinking we might be able to get on one of those shows.  When we arrived at the show we realized we weren't at a giveaway show.  In fact we were one day before she started her giveaways.  We were bummed.  I couldn't believe it. We just missed it by one day!  But then I got over it fast because really that wasn't why we got the tickets.  We got them so my sister and I could do something fun together. And fun it was!  You seriously don't stop dancing.  And clapping.  And singing.  It's so rad!  Then the show finally started and Ellen came out.  She started in on her monologue and then surprised the whole audience when she announced that we were coming back for 12 days of giveaways!!  Well we about lost it! I still can't believe it.  I am not lucky.  And I never win anything.  And this is like a big win.  I mean what are the odds?? 

 

 

The fun doesn't end there though.  In August I got tickets for myself, my 3 sister in laws and mother in law to go see Beyoncé in concert.  I was only able to get the worst seats ever.  I mean nose bleed.  But we didn't care.  We all love Beyoncé. My sister in laws husband works for South Park and was able to grab some VIP tickets for the show.  We had no idea what the tickets were for.  Neither did he.  He thought maybe we could get some free drinks with the tickets.  So we really had no idea what to expect.  So after Ellen I headed over to Staples center to meet up with my family.  We went in expecting to go all the way up to the top level, but were redirected to the floor level.  Yes those tickets weren't for free drinks but for floor access! And they also got us into the "chairmans room" which is a fancy room where celebrities get to hang out before the show.  So there we were just hanging out with Bruno Mars (who my mother in law hugged, it was adorable), Jessica Alba and Khloe Kardashian (only I don't consider Khloe Kardashian a celebrity, cuz really what is she?) Then after rubbing elbows with the rich and famous we headed out to the show.  Beyoncé is amazing!  She puts on a great show. We were so close.  Oh and she looked me right in the eyes when singing Love on top.  I about died.  She is beautiful and oh so talented.  I didn't get home till 1 in the morning and I totally lost my voice.  But it was so worth it.  It was 100% the best day I have had in a long time.

 

 

This is my sister in law and I dorking out before the show. But seriously it was unbelievable that we were on the floor.

 

 

 

This picture is terrible but it just gives an idea of how close we were to her.  Gosh it was awesome!

 

 



 



 

santa

Our annual visit to Santa went remarkably well.  Nobody cried.  Everybody remembered what they wanted to ask him for.  And we even got a decent picture out of it.

Now it is officially Christmas season.  Let the holiday rush begin.

Happy #3

I love story time at the library. It's free. It's fun. It takes up at least 45 minutes of your day.  And it's educational.  Did I mention that it was free?  I never understand why there aren't more moms and kids there when I go.  This week we went on Tuesday, usually we go on Monday. What a lucky Tuesday it turned out to be.  Lucy won a pumpkin! 

She spied that itty bitty pumpkin the moment we went in.  She kept asking me about it.  I told her I'm sure it's for a story.  After story time the librarian said she would be raffling off some of the pumpkins.  I knew if she didn't win this would not end well.  Luckily she won.  What a happy girl she was!!  She kissed that pumpkin and has carried it with her ever since.

Happy #2

2 weeks ago was my sons birthday, my sister came down to visit.  Everyone loves when she comes.  She always has the best accessories and phone apps.  She is really cool.

I am so thankful to have a sister.  For so many reasons.  She is really the best aunt and my best friend.  She makes our family so happy.

Happy #1

My father in law had a phrase that he would say...."Life is short, make it happy." Since he passed away we have tried to adopt that motto to our life.  I decided that I would love to post something happy here every week. Every Friday I will post something happy. Would you like to join in?  Let's find the happy.

 

 

We are huge Dodger fans.  Huge.  Like we named our sons middle name Dodger after the LA Dodgers. Yeah we are serious.  We were lucky enough to get tickets to game 4 of the NLDS series game.  They won!  Which means they advance to the next series and if they win that series they will go to the WORLD SERIES!!!  This is the girls and my husbands reaction to the win.  It was such an awesome happy game!  Go Blue!!!

I would love for you to post happy thoughts to your blog.  Leave a comment with the link. Happy Friday!!!

food

After being diagnosed with kidney failure I was given so much information it was overwhelming.  Besides having to be on dialysis I also had to follow a very strict diet.  In the hospital the dietician came in to talk to me about what I could and could not eat.  It was terrible.  She read over a list of foods that were not good for me because of the amount of sodium, phosphorous and potassium.  All of which when you have working kidneys can be eaten, but when your kidneys don't work those things turn into toxins that build up in your body and can make you feel awful.  The list of foods that were off limits to me made me cry.
No more:
chocolate
avocados
ice cream
milk
Peanut butter
beans
bananas
oranges
nothing with salt
tomatoes
pasta sauce
cereal
I want you to understand that I loved all these foods.  Reeses peanut butter cups were my go to treat. Guacamole is my world.  No more cereal and banana for breakfast.  What?! After the mourning period was over for what I couldn't eat anymore.  I had a hard time finding things to eat.  I was almost scared to eat.  I was finally feeling good after feeling so sick for so long and the thought that food could make me feel sick again scared me. So for the first week all I ate was chicken and rice.  Because another part of this diet is it is high protein.  I need to eat protein at every meal.  I wasn't used to eating like this.  You know healthy eating.  I was so lost.  Then slowly but surely I started figuring out yummy recipes.  I realized that in moderation I could enjoy those foods.  And the that the real key to sticking to this diet is cooking at home.  Restaurant food is so loaded with sodium it's crazy!  At home I can control my ingredients. Everything is fresh.  I can withhold the salt.  You know what else is terrible?  Fast food.  I mean duh, of course it's bad for you but seriously it's way worse than I ever thought.  And the "healthier" options on the menu seem to be the ones loaded with sodium.  My doctor told me that not just people with kidney disease should be on a low sodium diet, but EVERYONE should be on one. Restaurants have to post the nutritional information for their menu.  Pay attention to it. Ask the waiter for a list before ordering.  You will be surprised at how much sodium is put into food.  People are so concerned with the calorie intake but there is so much more to it than fat.  My point is this, what you put into your body is so important.  I never really paid any attention to it.  I was so busy taking care of 4 kids that I would just eat as fast as I could.  Sure I cooked dinners for my family, but they were not as healthy as they are now.  And we ate way more fast food than I care to admit.  But after a long day of school, homework, after school sports I just couldn't whip together a meal. So fast food it was.  But no more.  And I'm not so sad about it anymore. 

Just for fun here is yummy recipe I came up with that is easy to make and delicous:
Moms Meatloaf
1 pound lean ground beef
1 pound turkey meat
2 cloves of garlic chopped
1 white onion chopped up
1 1/2 cup of milk
2 cups of panko bread crumbs
1 egg
2 cups of ketchup
Combine everything in a bowl.  Make 2 loaves with the meat mixture.  Bake at 400 for about 30-40 minutes.  It's really so yummy and delicious. And perfect for fall.


 And just for something cute to look at here is my Lucy, so proud of herself for figuring out how to "hang like a monkey"